4Sight Model
The 4Sight Model says that your consciousness is driven by two thought processes.
How you look at the past - your Self-Esteem (SE) - and how you plan for the future - your Self-Confidence (SC).
Together, they determine everything that you say and do and, really, also what you don't say and don't do.
Both processes "filter", your "perception" of the past or "assessment" of the future.
Flaws in SE and SC permit our emotions to drive our behavior in an undesirable fashion.
Unfortunately, those flaws allow triggers from our development to create feelings (i.e. emotions) that are erroneous or flat-out incorrect.
Left unchallenged, our higher-level thinking will support the conclusion with a cognitive distortion, a logical fallacy.
In effect, we are lying to ourselves.
Your SE and SC are largely in place by the age of three when your brain has developed significantly. Your behavior can change, but in order to do that, you need to be accountable for the underlying thought processes first. If those two thought processes are accurate - meaning more or less congruent with what "the crowd" would perceive or assess - then you will be able to function day to day with minimal and manageable conflict. However, if your SE or SC fall below a threshold, then you'll encounter issues relating to the respective cause. We offer the table below to show how SE and SC issues manifest themselves.
| Self-Esteem (SE) | Self-Confidence (SC) | |
| What it is | How you look at the past | How you look at the future |
| Accuracy | Your ability to assess your causal contribution to an event and the implication thereof (what it means) | Your ability to forecast the likely outcome of an event and the impact(s) |
| Inaccuracy | Over-assigning negative assessments to oneself and/or under-assigning positive assessments |
Over-forecasting the likelihood and/or impact of a negative outcome and/or under-forecasting the likelihood and/or impact of a positive outcome |
| Identifying Mild / Moderate Issues | ||
| Feelings | Negative Avoid scrutiny to prevent shame and guilt You don't like yourself You blame yourself You fear scrutiny or how to respond to review Lose desire to act |
Anxious Avoid planning to prevent worry and fear You don't trust yourself You discourage yourself You fear failure or being able to handle it Lose ability to act |
| Traits | You do for others to get approval You avoid interaction/don't talk You don't go out Overestimate past problems, removing the reason to act |
You look for others to decide You avoid action/don't do You don't plan Minimize future problems, removing the need to act |
| Identifying Severe / Extreme Issues | ||
| Feelings | You don't like others You blame others You scrutinize others |
You don't trust others You discourage others You manipulate others |
| Traits | Seek/enable chaos Relationship turmoil Drugs to forget about the past |
Take risks Emotional turmoil Drugs to distract about the future |
